Social Media Addict or Enthusiast ?

21 August 2016



I am a huge social media whore. Guilty as fucking charged! From the moment I wake up until I go to sleep. It's an addiction, an unhealthy one, but one that I love so much! I am the peeper/creeper follower. It's very rare that I interact on social media unless it's via the blog or on Facebook as that's where most of my real life friends/associates are. Instagram is where I love to draw inspiration from and I have to admit I am stalker-ish when it comes to a dreamy insta account. And snapchat... well let's chat about snapchat for a minute. You know when people say 'Don't drink and drive'... well... I shouldn't drink and snap. Yes... I am the drunk snapper. I'll send through 100 snaps in one night due to alcohol intake and the more alcohol intake the more snaps. It's actually embarrassing yet entertaining. 

But enough about me and my embarrassing social media faux pas. How ADDICTIVE is social media? 

The truth is - social media is moderately fake and heavily constructed. There is no way around it. We post things on our social sites that we want people to see... FACT. But on the plus side it allows us to communicate and get messages out to the masses that we wouldn't have been able to do by word of mouth or even paid promotion. I for one love social media as it allows me to connect myself to bloggers and influencers in a way that I wouldn't have been able to do on my own. I am able to talk about my blog to people on the other side of the world (which is fucking cool that someone in Australia is loving my blog - thanks babez) and catch up on what my friends are doing when I'm not there (which sometimes can be a bad thing as I slightly suffer from FOMO). That's what makes it so damn addictive! But I ain't mad at it! Hands up if you have a social media addiction... 


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So let's chat about this outfit for a minute. Cami/Slip dresses have the staple piece this summer - not complaining. I love them. Since Kendal Jenner (bore) rocked the t-shirt and slip dress combo everyone has been going crazy for this look...including me. I snapped this monochrome beauty up while browsing for holiday attire on asos. Thanks asos ! always knows how to steer a girl away from her motive! I paired this look with these FACKING amazing Dr Marten sandals. I have been wanting these for the longest however it's pretty hard to part with £95 on a pair on sandals that you'll only wear a few times a year. But the temptation gave in  and now these are all mine!





Cami dress, sunnies and Dr Marten sandals - asos | T-shirt - Primark

Guys! The next time we chat I'll be in Vietnam! Yay and talk soon! x 

What to look out for when shopping for Bras for big boobies

8 August 2016


Ahh the blog post about breasts. How I have been waiting a long time to write about you but my prude-ish ways makes me shy away from such things like boobies and vaginas. But I'm taking the plunge today. 

I remember the first time I brought a bra at the tender age of 11 or 12. I was so excited. My friends mum took me and my friend shopping at Marks and Spencer's to buy our first training bra. I remember mine - a white AAA cup training bra. I was in heaven when I first put it on, that was when I realised I was becoming a women.

The Statistics 
Apparently over 80% of women wear the wrong bra size. Me included. I've been wearing a D cup for the longest thinking this was my size as the last time I was measured was yonks ago (Probably when I was a slim ting). I decided to measure myself late last year only to find out I am now a size 34E (WHATTT! I'VE GONE UP A FACKING CUP SIZE!). Not cool that I was squeezing my E size boobies into a D cup. No wonder they gasped for air every time I took my bra off at the end of the day and let's not talk about the spillage because I tried to hide it but some how there was always... spillage.

So here are a few things to look out for when shopping for your big boobies.

1. Support is everything
I remember the Mr. bought me a bra that had no wiring. I told him it wasn't going to work. He turned around and said: 'but it's your size no?' Me: 'yes babe it's my size but my boobs are going to fall out of these... we need support.' and that was the end of that conversation. I can't bring myself to throw the bra away so it's still at the bottom of my underwear drawer. NOTE: The wrong bra size can cause tension in your back and shoulders which can ultimately cause headaches and bad posture...

2. Say NO to EXTRA padding
Why would we need EXTRA padding so when our boobies are fucking massive as it is? No.Thank.You.

3. Black is everything
Black/dark bras are everything. I prefer darker colours when it comes to my underwear. Especially as I don't want to draw attention to my boobs. I mean wearing a white T-Shirt with a pink bra is a no for me.

4. Cheap vs Quality 
Even though Primark now do my size it's not worth it. When I was a D cup (and under) I could buy Primark bras but now I can't risk it. They fall apart quicker than you can say 34E and the support just isn't there. I have gone back to my roots and now purchase all my bras at Marks and Spencers. Trust me when I say their bras are amazing and worth every penny. If I do want to feel that much sexier Lazenza is always a good choice too.






I hope you guys felt like this was an insightful post... now go and get measured babes!


How I Manage Blogging with a Full Time Career

24 July 2016



Something a little heavy on the blog today.

'How do you blog and work full time?'
A question I have been asked one too many times so I've decided to give you amazing readers some insight on how I manage this little blog of mine.

I started my blog during my first full time job as a production assistant in 2013. I was always used to juggling a few things at once. At university I juggled looking after my son, a part time job (working in a betting shop - best 3 years of life mate! Jokinggg!) and interning here and there. So when I finally settled into a full time job I wanted something else to keep me going. And that's when Virgos and Kisses was born.

In the early days of Virgos and Kisses I could blog when ever I wanted. I had a pretty easy breezy job. I was able to write during lunch, go to events and exhibitions after work and take outfit pictures on the weekend. 

Now... It's totally different.

I have a career now. So the blog unfortunately has taken a little backseat. 

If you've been following me for a while you would have noticed the lack of consistency from my first year up until now. Some months I didn't even blog. But I found a way that keeps me in the game and still have a career.

So here are a few things I try to do to manage VK.

1. Keep up to date
Even though I am not physically posting I am always up to date with my favourite bloggers. The Bloglovin' app and Instagram is how I do this. The fact that I can keep up to date with blogs on the go, whether it be on my commute to work or a spare 5 minutes (I secretly have the bloglovin' site open on my second screen just because) makes it all worthwhile. Keeping up to date with your favourite bloggers, commenting on posts, liking posts and just showing your face is still classed as blogging. 

2.Weekends are your best friend
... and sometimes worst
Weekends are usually the only time I am able to take blog pictures, attend events and write. And weekends are just about the only time my Mr. is able to shoot for me as he sometimes works on Saturdays. It can be a negative too as weekends are also the only time I really have to spend with my son and chill, but because I am dedicated to VK I will always make it work.

3. Have a Rhythm
I used to blog once a week without fail. Even if it was just a little message I always wanted you guys to know that I'm still here. But now a little message is a lot of work for me. So I keep to a minimum of 1 blog post a month and to me that's consistency. You don't have to blog everyday or even every week. If you have a rhythm you can keep to, your readers/followers will find that rhythm along with you.

4. Shoot Multiple OOTD
My Mr. hates it when I shoot more than one outfit at a time. As per point 3, the weekends are usually when I shoot my outfits. I usually try and shoot 3-5 outfits in one day. It's a lot but it's worth it in the long run. You then have a lot of content to last you a month or two in my case.

5. Use your Daily Commute
I try and be as real as possible with you guys and I love when bloggers are the same. So anything that comes to mind I type into notes on my iPhone and always keep it for an upcoming post. Some things are too REAL and I have to keep it back. But a lot makes it on here. Use those daily commutes wisely - they come in handy!

6. Scheduled Posts
I literally have the longest list of blog posts that I have curated on my commute to work, at work, while watching TV and so on. And I try to work on one at a time. Hence this post - it's taken me three days to write (she says while typing from her iPhone 6 on the train - and now the final edit is being edited while at a grade session - actually the final edit is today (Sunday) while eating Sunday dinner). SEE WHAT I MEAN!

7. Enjoy It
There was a time when I wasn't enjoying blogging which I wrote about here. That's probably why I stayed away for sometime. And in reality it was the perfectionist in me that wanted to keep up with the full time bloggers who post everyday/week. But I knew that couldn't be me. I don't believe you can have it all. But I do believe if you master one thing properly you will kick ass at it. Right now I don't want to be a full time blogger. I love my career and worked fucking hard to get here. So although VK is a job within itself, I love it just how it is. 

If you have a full time job/career which isn't your blog I would love to know what you do too!

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Can I just say I am loving bardot tops and mules at the moment!
Snapped this bardot top at Boohoo.com and it was the last one! Yayness.


And let's talk about these New Look mules for a sec.  I've promised myself not to purchase cheap shoes as they never last!  But New Look are on fire at the moment! I bought these off asos and bagged an all black pair with a smaller heel in store on Friday #winning

Top - Boohoo.com | Collettes - Espirit via asos | Mules - New Look via asos (sold out - nude version here) | Sunglasses - Sugar and Style (Box Park Shoreditch)

Happy Sunday peeps!



Perfect Summer Sandals

26 June 2016

I have to admit I didn't find these sandals on my own. 


My stylish friend from work actually had these in her saved items and I had no choice but to copy cat! We actually purchased these ages ago and now I'm seeing them everywhere so I'm glad I snatched these up before they sold out!




Sandals - Asos (sold out - similar here) | Bomber - Mani's :) | Top - New Look | Mom Jeans - Topshop

Right Now
Getting ready to get my Sunday cooking on!

This Week
Has been super chill. Work has been chaotic yet chilled and this weekend has been so chill.
I actually enjoy my weekends like this however the wild in me does like a crazy night out once in a while :)

Looking Forward To
Garage Nation Festival!
Who the fack is going?
Last year was last minute.com - me and girls literary decided to go a few days before and glad we did because we enjoyed it so much that this year is a must!
I can't wait to hold a vibe to the old school garage anthems - brings me back to when I was in school.

Are you going to any festivals this year?

The Perfect Co-ord

20 June 2016

I've been sitting on this Co-ord for a while now. I purchased it around 2 months ago and only now had the chance to blog it. 



I originally bought it for a friends birthday, it's super glam but you can also dress it down with a pair flatforms or adidas super stars and a leather jacket. It is the most comfortable coord I own and doesn't make me feel body conscious. 
And for a stellar £20 you can't go wrong! 


I'll let you guys in on a little secret. 
Just after I purchased this coord, my friend told me about the Topshop pleated collettes which are a dead stamp of the Boohoo ones. 
I love quality fashion but I also love a bargain - so in true 'Michelle' fashion I thought I would be missing out due to Topshop's reputation and possibly being better in material but when I saw and felt the toppers ones there was no difference at all! 
So I basically got a full outfit for less than the price of the toppers collettes alone! 
Bargain or nah?! Thanks Boohoo you little gem!

Co-ord set - Boohoo (Sold Out - Similar here) | Sandals - Public Desire

Don't watch the 'no face' in the images. It didn't make the cut! :P

Fuck You Wedding Season!

4 June 2016

From the title of this blog post you would think that I hate weddings... No. 
I love weddings! I can not wait for the day to start planning mine (hint hint). 
What I do hate is shopping for the perfect wedding outfit.... urgh fucking torture.

My style has developed over the years.
I have gone from the tomboy phase in my late teens, to girly/tomboy in my early 20s to girly with a dash of edgy in my mid 20s to now a defined edgy, chic, on trend yet comfortable style - oh and loads of BLACK.
That felt like a mouthful but it's hard to describe my style in 1-2 words. FACT

So shopping for wedding attire is torture - especially for me. 
Firstly you have to consider what you can NOT wear. White, Black, Trainers, Flats... the list can go on. 
Then you have to consider your budget. And my in case my non-existent budget due to my family holiday to Vietnam this summer. Yayness!
Lastly you have to consider what the heck your partner is wearing.
There are too many things restricting my awesomeness and none that can contribute to it!

To be clear - I have been invited to three weddings this year. That means three completely different outfits...

Wedding no. 1
I managed to find this outfit with the help of my trusty friends Asos and Public Desire.
As I have put few pounds here and there, I wanted to wear something that I would feel comfortable in yet stylish and sexy so I originally opted for this pant suit (Bottoms & Top). It ticks all the boxes.
Hides belly, covers arms, stylish yet affordable... you get the drill.

However as the Mr. is one of the groomsmen he made it a point to let me know that standing next to him in a pant suit is not hot. I agreed. So my pant suit idea was thrown out of the window... cheers Mani.

Through endless saved lists and trailing through Asos, Missguided, Boohoo and all the affordable on trend, online websites I settled on this number. 
A one shoulder pleated mini dress in mint.
It's super girly but really comfortable so that's a great compromise.


Dress - Asos | Shoes - Public Desire - ps. I would advise getting sizing up when you order from PD

Wedding No 2 & 3 outfit posts will be coming shortly. I just need to find them first!

But here are some really cool outfit choices.
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9

Thursday Ramblings

26 May 2016




This is not your average post. I'm in the mood to chat shit today. 

Firstly. I want to express how sad I am that Tamar Braxton has been booted of The Real Talk show. I absolutely adore her and love her quick snap backs and ratchet like behaviour. 
I'm sad to see you go girl! 

Secondly. What's the deal with the weather. As Londoners we all know the British weather has a tendency to make us happy, then sad, then just downright fucks with our day but just for once I'm praying we get one or even two weeks of pure sun and nice tan-like weather... Is that to much to ask? On the other hand - I read somewhere that this year we will get our first full summer... Please say it's true?! Praying to the gods it is! 

Thirdly. I want to talk about the new beyonce album. Actually scrap that. It's the shit. That.is.all. 

Boyfriend Jeans Jacket - Pull & Bear (similar) | Shirt - H&M (similar) | Jeans - Mango via ASOSSunglasses - Topshop

Ramblings over. 
Now continue with your day. 
Peace x 

London Institute of Photography

26 April 2016

"There are no rules for good photographs, there are only good photographs." - Ansel Adams


If I knew what I had known 5 years ago when I first received my Canon 500D as a christmas present I would have fallen in love with photography straight away.
Doing a Film course at Uni almost everyone had a DSLR as they were slowly becoming the new IT camera for filming so of course I jumped on the bandwagon.
It never left my side throughout Uni but when I left I hardly used it - until I started Virgos and Kisses.



Just before I started VK I decided to take make it my mission to become one with my DSLR and take photography semi seriously. It was my mission to learn how to shoot in the manual mode and I even managed to produce a few good images - I wouldn't have called myself a pro photographer. 


When I began to take the blog seriously, I upgraded the DSLR to the 600D which I absolutely love and my love for photography grew.
I noticed a different direction in the images I took for the blog and felt more confident in how I wanted them taken.

London Institute of Photography

Holger Pooten contacted me a few weeks back and asked me if I wanted to review one of his courses.
A two day beginner course and of course I accepted. 
These kind of courses are really good for learning and honing in on the skills you've picked up - but in the back of my mind I secretly thought...
'Surely someone like me who has owned a DSLR for over 5 years should know how to take a good photograph right? It's just a matter of good lighting, pointing and shooting... no?'

No.

I remember the first hour clearly - an introduction to our camera's. Because I whatsapp'ed Mani immediately saying 'I'VE BEEN SHOOTING ON THE WRONG SETTING FOR 5 YEARS!'
I'm so embarrassed to say it - but it's true. Throughout the years that I have owned a DSLR I have not been using them to their full potential. 



Holger completely put photography into prospective. 
The first day I couldn't wait to start practicing what I had learnt.
The second day we learnt how to get the best from our cameras - experimenting with the shutter speed, ISO and the aperture which resulted in some pretty cool photography styles.  

His class for beginners consist of a maximum of 8 people which is nice because everyone gets to have their say and you get that one on one with Holger which is also is super helpful for people like me who ask a million questions. 

I would recommend this class to anyone even photographers who 'think' they know what they are doing. It's such an insightful course and you're getting a lesson from an amazing photographer who's work has been commissioned for Nikon, Orange (now EE), Adidas and BMW.


Pretty cool right?

You could learn how to take some cool ass images and more some by taking Holgers class too.

Check him out below

Website and course information: https://www.liop.co.uk/
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Holger Pooten personal website: http://holgerpooten.com/

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